Female Sexuality Facts
Facts, Theories, And Information on Female
This description of women's sexual anatomy is divided into three parts.
External Female Sexual Organs - are described on the page below. Other pages include:
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The name that covers all the external female sexual organs (also known as the genitals) - i.e. the parts you can see - is the vulva. The different parts of the vulva are: the large, outer lips called the labia majora; they join at the top at the mons pubis, a soft mound that is covered with hair after puberty; the smaller, inner lips called the labia minora that are usually found within the labia majora; the clitoris, which is located at the point where the inner lips join; and the vestibule, the almond-shaped area within the labia minora where the urine passageway and the opening to the vagina appear.
The labia majora, the outer lips, are the outermost part of a woman's genitals, and they vary in size and shape from woman to woman. After puberty they are usually covered with hair. During sexual excitation, the labia majora swell and flatten out, exposing the vaginal opening. This is caused by extra blood swelling the vessels.
The labia of women who have had a child show the response a little more strongly than the labia of women who have not. After menopause the labia majora thin out and lose most of the fat that gave them shape and prominence; they no longer swell and then flatten out as they used to.
The mons pubis (the "pubic mound"), also called the mons veneris (the "mound of Venus"), is the deposit of fatty tissue over the pubic, bone. It becomes covered with hair during puberty.
The labia minora, the inner folds of tissue, are not as thick as the labia majora, but they are more sensitive and can give sensual pleasure when they are fondled, kissed or touched. When a woman reaches a certain level of sexual excitement, her labia minora change color.
This color change is called the sex skin change and indicates that a lover knows how to give a woman an orgasm, which will happen if the stimulation continues. The labia of women who have not been pregnant and had a child become a glistening bright red; in women who have sex after having a child, the change is to a deep red wine color.
At the same time as the color change happens, the labia minora become larger because of the increased blood flow that is a natural result of sexual stimulation. When there is no more stimulation, both the large outer and the smaller inner lips return to their usual size and shape within a short period of time.
The external genitals of women often used to be referred to as the pudenda, which is Latin for "thing to be ashamed of." This is part of the legacy of embarrassment, fear, disgust and detachment about their bodies that women have to come to terms with.
It is no wonder that women have had such a difficult time accepting their bodies in our culture, and in many others around the world, as being competent and important in themselves, and not just in the service of others. Deal with obesity to make yourself more sexually attractive.
The clitoris, which you can find where the labia minora or inner lips meet, has a single function - to give pleasure to its owner. The innumerable nerve endings in the clitoris and the area immediately around it mean that it is very sensitive to direct or indirect contact.
The clitoris consists of a head or rounded area, called the glans, and a longer part, called the shaft or body. The body of the clitoris is usually covered by the tissue of the inner lips, which make a hood to protect it. In its normal state, when it is not stimulated, it can vary in size from an eighth to half an inch long.
You can see the natural variation in size by looking at clitoris pictures here. When it is stimulated, it fills with an extra flow of blood and increases in size: both the shaft and the glans enlarge - the glans can double in diameter.
As stimulation continues and orgasm approaches, the clitoris retracts and moves under its hood. It moves out again when the stimulation stops. After orgasm the clitoris returns to its normal size within about ten minutes.
When a woman is unable to orgasm the extra blood that has flowed into the clitoris in response to her stimulation may remain there, keeping the clitoris enlarged for perhaps several hours. Many women find this uncomfortable. Orgasm leads to a dispersal of the extra blood.
Q: "Can the clitoris get damaged from too much stimulation?"
A: "No. The clitoris will not be damaged by intercourse or by hand or mouth contact, directly on the clitoris or indirectly on the clitoral area. If your clitoris is over-stimulated it will begin to get sore and you will automatically want stimulation to stop. Take that cue, as you take cues from other parts of your body, and your clitoris won't get hurt.
If it does get irritated - and this rarely happens - the irritation may not be related at all to contact. If the irritation continues, get medical help. Such irritation can induce a yeast infection - and as all women and men with yeast infection know, Candida albicans on the genitals is not fun."
Q: "What happens to the clitoris during sexual intercourse?"
A: "During intercourse the penis does not contact the clitoris directly. The thrusting of the penis in the vagina, regardless of the position used, moves the labia minora (the inner lips), and it is this movement of the lips against the clitoris that usually creates the feeling of pleasure.
You can, of course, have direct contact with the clitoris during intercourse by touching it with a finger or a vibrator, but many women find direct contact more irritating than stimulating; a more general contact with the area is likely to produce a more pleasurable response. This is one of those cases in which talking to your partner about what you like can produce greater pleasure for you both."
Q. "When I'm making love, I "lose" the clitoris. Am I doing something wrong?"
A: "You are not doing anything wrong. On the contrary, you are doing something right. When a woman is sexually excited, the clitoris normally retracts under its hood. The general clitoral area is still very sensitive, so continue what you are doing rather than fumble around in a vain search for the clitoris.
The fact that your partner's clitoris has pulled back means she is excited, responding and moving toward orgasm. Remember too that always wondering how you are doing can take the joy and naturalness out of sex, and make you an observer rather than a partner."
There has been, and continues to be, a controversy over an alleged difference between orgasm produced by stimulation of the clitoris alone and orgasm produced with a penis in the vagina. Freud believed, and many of his followers continue to believe, that it is appropriate for a young girl to fondle her clitoris and so achieve sexual pleasure and orgasm.
But, they said, in order for her to mature as a woman she should come to accept and prefer orgasm induced by a penis in the vagina - "vaginal orgasm." If she fails to make this transfer, her psychosexual development is arrested. Freud and his followers therefore placed a strong positive value on "vaginal" orgasm, and a negative one (except for adolescents) on "clitoral" orgasm.
Masters and Johnson and other sex researchers and analysts have shown that the physical indicators of orgasm are identical, regardless of the way the orgasm is produced - whether it's by a penis in the vagina, a hand, tongue or vibrator on the clitoral area, by breast fondling or through fantasy.
Physically, what is happening to the woman at the point of orgasm is the same.
However, the orgasm produced through stimulation of the G spot and by stimulation of the clitoris do not feel the same to a woman, either physically or emotionally.
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The reason seems to be that while the outward signs of all orgasms are similar, some orgasms involve different nerve routes to others. In fact, the deeper stimulation of the internal vaginal tissues of the G spot seem to produce a deeper orgasm mediated through different nerve pathways, which some women describe as a whole body orgasm and report as being emotionally more fulfilling.
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Women don't all women reach orgasm in the same way. Many women find that orgasm produced by direct stimulation of the clitoral area feels more intense than orgasm resulting from a penis in the vagina. Equally, a great many women find orgasm with a penis in the vagina to be more fulfilling and meaningful.
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To do this she has to select the right context and she probably has to be able to communicate with her sex partner to indicate what she wants and to arrive at a situation where both people may achieve the satisfaction they seek.
A woman's clitoris may become sore (as any part of any person's body may become sore) if it is rubbed a lot. The body is then issuing a simple cue to stop until the soreness ceases. That cue is entirely sufficient as a guide to individual behavior.
The vestibule has two main parts, the urethra and the opening to the vagina. The urethra is the passageway that carries urine from the bladder out of the body. Its opening is below the clitoris and above the opening of the vagina. Just below the urethra is the vaginal opening, which is the beginning of the vagina itself.
The vaginal opening is not a large hole unless it is being penetrated or a baby is being delivered, and can best be seen in a sexually unaroused woman when both sets of labia are parted.
Female sexuality is reputedly stronger than male sexuality - at least in the sense that an aroused woman has a level of sexual desire which matches and often exceeds a man's, and she does not lose interest in sex when she has reached orgasm and ejaculated - she can continue to enjoy one orgasm after another for quite some time, while the man enters his refractory period and must wait until he can get an erection before attempting to achieve orgasm again.
This can prevent the woman from gaining much sexual pleasure, since in general she will take longer to reach orgasm than he does. The solution to this disparity in sexual desire and arousal is for the man to give the woman an orgasm before he enters her, so that when he does so, she can enjoy feeling him inside her for as long as it takes to satisfy her.
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